Way too much idealogical niceness = automatic uncool + occasional creepiness
Example? See the blog post below. To 'People Are Just People' I was an unknown entity, perhaps cool, perhaps not, whereas now I'm just another "obviously lonely", "obviously lacking self-esteem" douschebag.
(For the record, I have plenty of self-esteem, I'm just aware that I'm not marketable to a substantial consumer base. More of a niche product.)
My point is, niceness and coolness are, generally, totally opposed.
(Generalisation I know)
But I'm stuck with niceness and that's who I am and I'd change if I could (but I can't so I won't).
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